I’m realizing that silence and the choice to walk is sometimes the most powerful tool especially when your silence comes from a place of protection, preservation, and radical peace.
Now silence is often complacency. And let me make myself clear. I will always believe silence is associated with complacency when it comes to issues of human rights, and justice. We must never be silent while watching our humanity be stripped away from us.
What I’m realizing though, is in my own life my silence and walking away is powerful. It’s a tool I can wield when I need to protect my peace, practice integrity, and apply discretion.
Interpersonal relationships are very complicated, and sometimes you run into people or situations that would like to ruin your peace. For example, the discovery of someone you once trusted, is no longer who they say they are. A person not being willing to save themselves or accept help. A person who is not willing to hear constructive criticism. A person who wants a fight. These people are begging for the negative energy they have bred because they feed off of bad energy and attention. They would rather crash out, and fight than be productive, honest, and authentic.
These people and the situations they create call your sanity into question. They may gaslight or question your integrity and they bank on your enabling and your energy exchange. And I was in contact with a situation and person like this recently.
My automatic response was to fight. I wanted to cuss them sideways, and publicly destroy them. I wanted to go and post a tell-all on all my socials. I wanted to blast my hurt and pain and disappointment. But then I put it through my Peace Protection Litmus Test:
How will my actions and words help the situation?
Will it bring me peace?
Will it decrease my pain?
Will it lead to reconciliation?
Is it worth my energy?
When running through my litmus test, and considering the person I described above, would it have been helpful to blast off?? No. Would it have been helpful to even report the situation? No, probably not. Because no matter the route I choose, it wouldn’t result in peace for me. It wouldn’t promote health and well-being for me. And it honestly wouldn’t make the pain go away. It would most likely increase the hurt I feel from the situation.
So I made the powerful choice to leave and make my exit with grace, integrity, and silence. I left it all alone. I’m working on mastering the art of letting go to protect my peace. I’m learning not everything needs to be said out loud, and that there is healing in radically preserving my peace and energy. I’m experiencing a lot of grief, as I never wanted to have a situation like this, in which I couldn’t provide a solution, in which I couldn’t reconcile.
But for once, I'm prioritizing myself.
So yes, my silence is a powerful force when accompanied by grace, peace, and the trust that God handles all things in due time. I shared this because we all are working to grow in this human experience and that can include hard choices, grief, and the discipline to better protect your peace.
My poem:
A path correctly chosen
Growth all around
My feet on the peaceful ground
Protection is my new priority
Soul healing clarity
Retrospection humility
Heading into a new direction
With holy spirit connection
Thankful for peace and grace
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